When was the last time you gave yourself a gift?
In improv, we are told to accept and build on the offers given. So many people stand around waiting for an offer, forgetting that they can give them to themselves.
The offer you give yourself is as important as the offer that someone else gives you.
This theme runs the same way in our everyday world. Do you listen to your own offers?
What offers do you give yourself?
What offers do you give yourself that make you crazy? Are they really offers, or blocks?
During any family get-together, I see people trying to 'make everyone happy.' Now, this is an impossible offer. All it does is make you miserable. And then who's fault is that? It is an offer you gave yourself - that blocked you instead of allowing you to move forward.
So listen to the offers you give yourself and see which are blocks and which are offers.
Accept and build - and know which offers are the ones to take and which can drive you over the cliff.
I have always admired the Serenity prayer for this idea.
God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
Give yourself a gift. You deserve it. And make it a good one.
My Fiancé will tell me all the time that I am addicted to my phone.
And it's true.
The truth is, I feel a certain need to be connected. To know what's going on, or have access to information when I need / want it.
What is also true is that we give up a certain amount of control when we have a cell phone. We are now accessible. Available. It is a devise that is out of your control: other people call you on it, not based on your needs or your day or your availability. They call because THEY want to reach you. It has nothing to do with you, your time or your work.
So - it's easy to say turn the phone off, but that doesn't address the need / desire to stay connected.
One game I play with a number of groups deals with status and how you perceive status, how it affects our relationships and work. The lesson attached to this exercise is that Status is always in YOUR control, and YOU get to choose your status at all times. For me, this helps with disconnecting. I can choose to be a higher status and not be available. Also - I found this great new feature on the iPhone called 'do not disturb.' It's sort of my way of saying 'I'm important, and I need this time for me. Everything else can wait.' And while it's on, I can still surf the web or get email or do whatever I want… it's just that no one else can disturb me. I like to think of it as my time for taking control of what I want and being the most important person at that time.
If you are feeling slightly under the gun and stressed about the things you have to do. Try the 'do not disturb.' It has a mental ability to let you focus, knowing that you are worth it.
Don't call me if you have any questions.